So a friend... not a close friend.. but a friend who is also a guy... I seem to have a lot of those lately... guy friends... tells me that I am intimidating to men. Of course something that I have heard before from other male friends... side bar this male friend thing seems to be a trend... is it because I intimidate them, and what's to handle.
I'm pretty simple... I love to f*uck (and all that comes with it ;)...kiss... I Love to cook... read...blog... dance... and sports (mostly football)... so what's so intimidating. I am low maintenance... I hate drama... I will always be honest with you... and well maybe that's the problem... maybe I'm too much like a guy.
He told me that it's the way I walk in to the room...I look like I'm a man eater... and that I don't take no stuff! Okay? and that's a problem... I mean how am I supposed to walk in a room...if confidence in one's self is cause for you to run to the hills then maybe I don't need him... and why should I have to dumb my self down just to get a man... I believe that God has someone for everyone... and my Mr. Right... is out there... and note I did not say my Mr. Perfect... Cause God knows there is no such thing.
I tried to get him to tell me specifically what made me so intimidating and he couldn't really answer.. all he could say is how men feel about women they are intimidated by. Men want to feel needed... men want to take control of situations... men blah blah blah... let's be clear... I know all this... and it just so happens I'm a single lady... so I am FORCED to do a lot of stuff on my own... cause I don't have a GUY in my life I can count on... PLEASE be the man... cause I don't want to... but if what you are looking for is some passive woman... who won't challenge you and by challenge I mean... be a partner and help you reach your goals cause she see's what your capable of then... I'm not the one for you.
I appreciate what he said... and some stuff I agreed with and some stuff I didn't but bottom line... I am who I am... I have been through a shit ton and have come out on the other side... Life is about living... not about dumbing down and worrying about who you might be intimidating... and that guy is there...ready to take on this challenge. I am ready to be "Whipped" into shape ;)
I'm sure his point wasn't for you to be someone you are not, more so that you should save your big joker, lil joker, and ace cards for a lil later in the game. Yes it is a game but this is the jungle that you are running in.
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